>having a gf/wife long term who doesn't want to fuck you silly >(exceptions like post baby or high stress periods may apply) Why even stay commited to her at this point? It's like the other Anon said, guys lie to themselves with all kinds of "misaligned stars" or "different love languages", when the fact is, if she doesn't want to fuck you regularly, she wants (and is probably going) to fuck another guy, simple as.